Expat’s Guide to Red Packet (Lai See) Giving in Hong Kong
In Hong Kong, giving red packets (利是, lai see) is a time-honored tradition, particularly during Lunar New Year. This guide will help expats understand how much to give and the etiquette to follow for various occasions, ensuring you respect local customs.
1. Understand the Context of Lai See Giving
The amount to give depends on several factors:
Occasion: Lunar New Year, weddings, or special life events.
Relationship: How close you are to the recipient.
Local Expectations: Hong Kong has its own unique red packet culture, which can differ from Mainland China or other Asian regions.
2. General Guidelines for Lai See Amounts
Lunar New Year
During the Lunar New Year, it’s common to give lai see to children, junior staff, service workers, or anyone to whom you want to show goodwill.
To children of friends/relatives: HK$20–HK$100 per packet, depending on closeness.
To junior staff or helpers: HK$50–HK$200 per packet.
To service staff (e.g., building security, cleaners, drivers): HK$20–HK$100 per packet.
To unmarried adults (if culturally expected): HK$50–HK$100 per packet.
Weddings
At weddings, red packets are typically given to the couple to help with their new life or cover banquet costs.
Close friends or relatives: HK$500–HK$1,200 or more.
Colleagues or acquaintances: HK$300–HK$500.
Be aware of banquet costs: If invited to a high-end venue, adjust upwards (e.g., HK$1,200 or more per person).
Other Occasions
Birth of a baby: HK$200–HK$500.
Housewarming: HK$100–HK$300.
Graduation or birthday: HK$100–HK$300 for acquaintances; more for closer relationships.
3. Lucky Numbers and Local Sensitivities
Lucky Numbers: Include 8 in the amount (e.g., HK$28, HK$88), symbolizing prosperity.
Avoid Unlucky Numbers: Do not give amounts with 4 (e.g., HK$40) as it sounds like "death" in Cantonese.
Crisp Notes: Exchange old notes for new ones at the bank before the festive season.
4. Lai See Etiquette in Hong Kong
Double Packets for Couples: Married couples often give two lai see packets—one from each spouse.
Use Red or Gold Envelopes: Avoid using white envelopes, as they are associated with funerals.
Present with Both Hands: Always give and receive lai see using both hands to show respect.
Be Prepared: Carry several packets during Lunar New Year to avoid awkward situations.
Don't Open Immediately: Recipients should not open the packet in front of the giver.
5. Adjusting for Hong Kong Culture
In Hong Kong, lai see amounts tend to be more standardized, especially in professional or social settings:
Office Etiquette: Give smaller lai see packets (e.g., HK$20–HK$50) to junior staff or colleagues.
Service Staff: It’s common to give smaller amounts (e.g., HK$20–HK$50) to multiple service workers in your building or workplace.
Family Focus: Close family members typically receive larger amounts, while acquaintances receive modest sums.
6. When in Doubt
If you're unsure, observe what others in your social or professional circle are giving and follow suit. Consulting local colleagues or friends for guidance is also a good idea.
